Are you comparing yourself to others?
It was a night like any other, nothing traumatic or dramatic had taken place. Yet, I was laying on my bed severely distressed. I felt insignificant. I felt like I wasn’t good enough. Wasn’t accomplishing enough. Was getting left in the dust. All of these emotions and concerns came within a span of 5 min from seemingly nowhere.
It seemed out of the blue to be affected like this when it was just me and my pup hanging out on my bed.
But there was another presence in the room….
I was scrolling through my social media feeds and checking my blog comments, trying to see how much of an impact I was making, how many “likes” I was getting and how much worth based on other people’s approval, or how close I was to achieving the same success someone else had. We all battle this from time to time, and for most of us it’s a daily struggle.
We obsess over celebrities, over our friends lives, over what our co-workers are up to and compare our lives to theirs. I have friends who have had to delete their social media accounts because the comparison led them down a dark tunnel into dark depression and isolation, because of how everything one else is “seemingly” living their lives. I say ‘seemingly’ because there is something you need to understand…
The social media newsfeed is not giving the full picture, it is a highlight reel and a resume of the good moments of your life that you want people to see. Trying to outdo the next person by showing only our best pictures and our best stories, it’s constantly working towards maintaining a digital facade of what our life is like.
I had to take a serious step back and evaluate where I was finding my worth, why I was pursuing some of the things I was pursuing and who I even am.
I had to learn to just be me.
We want to look like celebrities so we get plastic surgery, go on shopping sprees, buff up at the gym, start a diet and in turn make ourselves miserable. Everyone wants to be liked so we try to post the best content all the time.
Millionaire traveling, business owners, stop living in their real lives and with loved ones and devote all their time to striving online and ending up getting nowhere.
We see our high school friends and co-workers traveling and having babies and then we wonder to ourselves if we need to have babies and travel the world.
Envy is a trap. Jealousy is a noose. Comparison is a bottomless pit.
Comparing yourself to others is the enemy of contentment. Like Theodore Roosevelt says, “Comparison is the thief of joy”.The comparison game takes your eyes off of the purpose, It keeps your focus on the wrong things, your contribution or even what God is trying to do in you.
It’s the ultimate distraction tactic from the enemy. As long as you dwell on others lives and your shortcomings, you are too preoccupied to move forward towards your own purpose and calling.
It says in Galatians 6:4, “Let everyone be sure to do his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work done well and won’t need to compare himself with someone else.”
You won’t be able to accomplish the plan God has for you when your eyes are off track.
It says in Proverbs 14:30 that “a tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.” When I am struggling with this I shut down the devices and go into the Word of God to find out who I am and who God makes me to be. I get focused and intentionally shut off the distractions.
I find my way back to abundant life free from comparison and certain of who I am, my identity rooted in Christ, not social media.